The Darkroom


It has never been darker than it is now…

It is easiest to embrace darkness or at least a season of it when we know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.  In my case, it seems the tunnel has no end.  In just a few weeks I will be 36 years old and single.  I am a woman who loves God and people.  I am a woman who is educated.  And as I stated, I am a woman who is currently single.  Single, meaning, unmarried and not in any type of relationship; like none whatsoever (feel free to insert smile with me).  This is not how I would have written my story.  And this is when the room becomes dark.  However, beauty can come from darkness.

A friend recently reminded me of darkroom photography and the necessity of the darkness to produce a beautiful image.  What remains compelling during this process is the that the photographer chooses complete darkness, thereby willfully controlling the level of light.   Who chooses complete darkness?  I certainly would not.  I would choose to know what is ahead; when I will marry and how many children I will have.  Others might choose to know when they will land a new job and see relief from some of the financial strain they are experiencing.

Unprompted by me, God has chosen to produce a beautiful image of my life which remains unseen.  I am still in the darkroom and as this birthday nears, it feels incredibly dark.  Darkness ensues as I dodge the [at times unbearable] question that never fails to be asked of me more times than not, “Are you in a relationship (while being stared at with a hopeful gaze)?”  It has also been said to me, “Maybe your standards for a guy are just too high; you should lower them.”  Darkness surrounds as I think about the very real limitations of birthing children and how my age plays a part in that.  #Realtalk  Darkness looms as I think about the number of times, 8 to be exact, that I have joyfully stood as a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding, yet long to celebrate my own.

Although I can not see what awaits me, I await with great expectation for the beauty that God will reveal in me.  I know that this beauty goes beyond external and that the Lord is beautifully crafting my character.  It is incredibly dark in the dark room.  It is even lonely in the darkroom.  But it is beautiful.  I am daily being made more beautiful and that is beautiful.  During this season of singleness, I reflect on my most valued “possession” and the sweetest of things I hold dear and that is my relationship with Christ.  There is no season which parallels the opportunity to grow in intimacy with Christ as that of singleness.  I want to love and know God deeply.  Maybe the darkroom has produced this desire.  It is here that I am learning the very hard life lesson of being most satisfied in Him and Him alone.

In the silence and tears, the poem, “I will wait for you,” by Janette…IKZ of the Passion for Christ Movement (P4CM) has echoed the sentiment of my heart; and it still does.  Watch the video Here.  Janette…IKZ just celebrated her 1 year anniversary of marriage.  This poem is so moving to me because I have walked with and prayed with a lot of “Janette…IKZ” in my life.  Women who have also held firmly to the promises and standards of God without relenting to the pressures of our society which makes everything sexual and says to satisfy your desires however and whenever you see fit.  To these women –  I will not name you, but I will thank you.  Thank you for being examples of hope to me; even as I am “processing” in my darkroom.   Here’s to 36!  Another glorious year to behold the glory of the most beautiful one I’ve beheld – Christ Jesus.  Maybe I will behold the beauty of new man this year that will also captivate my heart (feel free to insert smile again).  Until then…I will wait.

“Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good!  Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him!”  Psalm 34:8

18 Replies to “The Darkroom”

  1. Great post Precious! I just read from Matthew 25 and although it’s about the end times, I’m reminded that in the end we all wait on Christ and how we live and the way we live is never insignificant. You are a wise woman and a treasure to behold. I stand with you in being steadfast. Cheers to a renewed hope and a happy birthday!!

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    1. TB – #Respect. You always remind me to approach every situation with the Word of God. A reminder I never tire of hearing. Perspective is everything. Blessed indeed. 🙂


  2. You are a strong woman who is a great inspiration to me because of your faith in God. Continue to delight youself in him and he will give you the desires of your heart. He is a faithful God! Love you!

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  3. Very true indeed. God knows and cares about every detail of our lives. Surely He has not forgotten this very important detail. Whatever He has in store for this season or next, trust that He is working it out for your good 🙂

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  4. Subject matter aside, you spun the words of this piece together like a tapestry–one that you would hang on a wall then pass down to your loved ones! But onto my comment…While I have often thought myself to be a borderline spiritual eunuch, I know God has plans in store for me, a grand beautiful, family. It may be unconventional, but it will fill my soul to the brim. I know He’ll do the same for you. The whoever and however is being worked out currently. Take comfort in knowing that the God of creation is curating the “perfect” family for Precious (and the rest of us in the dark room).

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  5. I thought I posted something….but looks like I didn’t . Yes, I agree with Kerrie. What made this piece powerful for me was the authenticity, the vulnerability and the way you used your words. You are an excellent writer and I am so glad you are doing this blog. Please keep it up!

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