Fresh out of Explanations

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced."  - James Baldwin What an emotionally exhausting few weeks.  A time to lament the grave injustice of our "just-us" system in America.  It seems that justice is illusive for some and not others. Since hearing that officer Jeronimo …

Absent Affirmations of my Father

Father's day is near and this year I don't feel prepared to lament the indefinite absence of my father's presence once again.   As if there ever was a preparation substantial enough to carry the weight that my father is no longer alive. It's been almost 22 years and I never feel prepared to think …

The Suffering Saint

Recently, I have spent a lot of time thinking about suffering and my desire to avoid it all costs.  It sucks to suffer. End of story.  January was laden with suffering and loss for a few of my friends; 3 funerals in 3 weeks to remember the lives of 2 fathers and 1 son.  Grief …

Am I Black?

“Am I Black?”  This question has echoed in my mind since it was so loudly projected from the mouth of a little boy (approximately 5 years old) to his parents as he sat with them and watched a portion of a video about the middle passage at The Griot Museum of Black Historyin St. Louis, …

When the Healer Doesn’t Heal

Sometimes I use music to silence the ache of my heart, but there is no song loud enough to remedy the ache I feel when death comes incredibly close.  Death always feels sudden and unexpected; sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't.  In youth and old age, the heart ache is just the same.  What …

Just Cry – Tears for Charleston and the Black Community

When a dear friend loses a loved one or when you have personally experienced  loss of someone near to you, there is significant wisdom and solace in having friends who are just able to be present with you.  Some of them rest in the place of empathy, having experienced the same loss, and others are …